Who Pays for a Bachelorette Party? Etiquette and Expectations Explained

Planning a bachelorette party can be a fun and exciting experience, but it can also come with its fair share of financial questions. One of the most common questions that arise is who pays for the bachelorette party? While there may not be a one-size-fits-all answer, some general guidelines can help you navigate this tricky etiquette question.

Traditionally, the bride is not expected to pay for her bachelorette party. Instead, it is up to the bridal party and other guests to cover the costs. However, as bachelorette parties have evolved over the years, so have the expectations around who pays for what. Nowadays, it’s not uncommon for the bride to contribute to the cost of her own party, or for guests to chip in to cover the bride’s expenses.

Unfortunately, the answer to this question is not always straightforward, and it really depends on a number of factors, including the bride’s preferences, the budget of the bridal party and guests, and the location and activities planned for the party. 

In this article, I’ll explore the different factors that can influence who pays for a bachelorette party, and provide some tips and guidelines to help you navigate this tricky etiquette question with ease.

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Who is supposed to pay for the bachelorette party? (Traditionally)

When it comes to bachelorette parties, the Maid of Honor is typically the one responsible for footing the bill. This tradition dates back to the idea that the Maid of Honor is the bride’s right-hand woman and is expected to take charge of all pre-wedding events.

While I understand the tradition, I have to say that it is not as feasible these days for the majority of us. You can’t expect the Maid of Honor to pay for everybody, especially if you have a lot of guests. How can a single person pay for a party of, let’s say, 10-15 people?

I will touch later in this article on some modern trends when it comes to who pays for the bachelorette party, which are more suitable for most of us.

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What is the Maid of Honor expected to do?

The Maid of Honor is usually expected to plan and organize the bachelorette party. This includes choosing the location, coordinating with the other bridesmaids, and making sure the bride has a good time. So those are her responsibilities:

  • Booking accommodations
  • Planning activities
  • Arranging transportation
  • Buying decorations and party favors

I kind of agree with these, buying decorations and party favors is not like paying for the entire party.

Being Maid of Honor is actually an honor, but it should be stressful and make you think about money before every decision you make. You can discuss this with the other bridesmaids before the party to set the expectation straight.

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Why Does the Maid of Honor traditionally pay for the party?

Traditionally, the Maid of Honor pays for the bachelorette party because she is considered the bride’s closest friend and confidante. It is her duty to make sure the bride has a memorable and enjoyable pre-wedding celebration. However, in recent years, it has become more common for all of the bridesmaids to split the cost of the party equally.

Ultimately, who pays for the bachelorette party depends on the bride’s preferences and the financial situation of the bridal party. It’s important to have an open and honest conversation about expectations and budget before planning the party to avoid any misunderstandings or conflicts.

In my opinion, the bachelorette party should be fun for everybody involved, and knowing that you have to pay for everybody is anything but fun. Some people take advantage of the fact that they know someone else pays for them and don’t consider taking slow on those cocktails or nice food, but even without that, paying for a lot of people is quite expensive.

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Three Modern Trends

Splitting the Cost Among Attendees

I believe this is the best option when it comes to modern bachelorette parties. Splitting the cost among all attendees allows for a more inclusive celebration where everyone can participate in the planning and execution of the event. Splitting the cost also means that no one person is burdened with the entire financial responsibility of the party.

To make the splitting of the cost easier, some groups use apps or websites that allow them to pool their money together. This way, everyone can contribute their share, and the maid of honor or party planner can use the funds to book accommodations, activities, and other party essentials.

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Bride Pays for Her Own Party

Another trend that has become more popular in recent years is for the bride to pay for her own bachelorette party. This allows the bride to have more control over the event, and to plan a celebration that fits her budget and preferences. 

It also means that the other attendees don’t have to worry about covering the cost of the bride’s portion of the party.

If the bride pays for her own party, she can still involve her bridesmaids and other attendees in the planning process. They can help with logistics, decorations, and other details, while the bride takes care of the financial aspect.

While I don’t totally agree with this one either, it is more acceptable than the traditional version where the Maid of Honor pays for everything.

The thing is that when you organize your own wedding, you should be prepared financially for the huge cost of it, but the Maid of Honor is someone you choose to be there for you. She doesn’t have to be as prepared since she didn’t choose the moment of the event to fit her budget.

Groom Contributes to the Cost

In some cases, the groom may also contribute to the cost of the bachelorette party. This can be a way to balance out the financial responsibilities between the two parties, and to ensure that the bride’s celebration is just as memorable as the groom’s bachelor party.

If the groom does contribute to the cost, it’s important to make sure that everyone is aware of the arrangement, and that there are no misunderstandings or hurt feelings. The bride and groom can discuss the details beforehand, and come up with a plan that works for everyone involved.

This is a late trend and it is especially applied when the groom has a much higher income than the bride. In many cases, couples keep the money together before marrying, so this might not be as relevant.


Etiquette and Communication

Discussing Finances with the Bride and Attendees

It is important to have open communication with the bride and other attendees about finances. Before planning the bachelorette party, discuss with the bride what her expectations are and what she is comfortable with in terms of budget. It is also important to communicate with the other attendees about what they are willing and able to contribute financially. This will help avoid any misunderstandings or awkwardness down the line.

In many cases, the Maid of Honor doesn’t know the financial situation of all the bridesmaids. So while you might want to plan a big unforgettable party in Las Vegas and want to split the cost with all the bridesmaids, it might not be suitable for all of them.


Communication is the key, who would have thought?

Create a Facebook or WhatsApp group to make sure everybody gets the message, I know those groups might turn into a mess quickly but at least everybody gets to see the message.

Setting a Budget and Sticking to It

Once you have discussed finances with the bride and attendees, setting a budget and sticking to it is important. Create a spreadsheet or table to track expenses and ensure everyone is aware of what they are responsible for financially. Be mindful of everyone’s financial situation and try to plan activities that are within everyone’s budget.

I know that planning a party might come with some surprises, cost-wise but if you do your best to think of all the main expenses, you should be much better off than not having a budget at all.

Avoiding Awkwardness and Misunderstandings

To avoid any awkwardness or misunderstandings, be transparent about costs and expectations from the beginning. If there are any changes or unexpected expenses, communicate them as soon as possible to avoid any surprises. 

It is also important to be respectful of everyone’s boundaries and preferences. If someone is uncomfortable with a particular activity or expense, try to find a compromise that works for everyone. Overall, open communication and respect for everyone’s financial situation and preferences is key when planning a bachelorette party. 

By setting a budget, communicating clearly, and being mindful of everyone’s needs, you can ensure a fun and stress-free celebration for the bride-to-be.


When it comes to who pays for the bachelorette party, there is no one-size-fits-all answer. It ultimately depends on the preferences and budgets of the bride and her bridal party. 

However, there are some general guidelines that can help determine who should pay for what.

Generally, the maid or matron of honor and the bridesmaids split the cost of the bachelorette party. The bride’s expenses, including her drinks, meals, and transportation, are typically split evenly between the bridal party. However, if the bride has specific requests or preferences for her bachelorette party, she may choose to cover some or all of the expenses herself.

It’s important to communicate openly and honestly with the bride and the bridal party about budget and expenses. If everyone is on the same page and agrees to chip in, it can make for a more enjoyable and stress-free bachelorette party experience for all involved.

Remember, the bachelorette party should be a celebration of the bride-to-be and her upcoming wedding. While it’s important to consider budget and expenses, the most important thing is to have fun and create lasting memories with the bride and her closest friends and family.